Dating apps may not be to everyone’s taste, but according to the Pew Research Center, one in ten non-single adults meets their current partner online or through a dating app. It may sound like a modern day fairy tale, but others think that online dating sucks because of their previous experience – and no, it’s not a fairy tale at all! Horror? Thriller? Comedy? We will let you decide!
Here are some terrible dating incidents that some Reddit users have written about online.
Why Some Reddit Users Think Online Dating Sucks
“There are a lot of catfish in the sea”
you / Hoggiebearz shared a story about someone they knew who was caught by an older woman. They wrote: “He has been chatting with this girl online for a very long time. He was going to go to Texas (we live in north Georgia) to visit her. When he told her that he was going to come to see her, she admitted that she was actually a 43-year-old overweight woman. At that time he was 23 years old. He doesn’t like to talk about it…” Wow!
Another story came from you/naughty who was caught by a “22-year-old lesbian posing as straight using Snapchat’s sex change filter.” The user added that they “didn’t realize it until ‘he’ asked me to come.” But the Reddit user is just one of many victims of catfish catching stories. While filters and photo-editing apps are convenient and fun to use, many still find that overuse and dependence on them is increasingly becoming a “problem.”
Take TikTok’s “daring glamor filter” for example, news outlets like NBC News And NPR reported that many find it “terrifyingly realistic” and that it sets another unattainable standard of beauty for humans.
You would think that people these days would strive for equality, and it’s somewhat understandable that some views from the past can’t be shaken off easily – especially when people were exposed to such norms as children, BUT sometimes the audacity of some people to say certain things can leave a person dumbfounded.
Take one anonymous Reddit user. She said that she once went on a date with a guy, and that she had a vision of him. Fast forward a week and her boyfriend texted, “You know you’re almost 30, right? Most of your eggs are already dry. It is a fact. Tick tock, tick tock, that’s your limited value going out the window. Good luck, glass of aged milk. Mister Perfect isn’t here, you’re too old to be picky. Sorry for being honest. Your life sucks.”
To make matters worse, as many women have experienced before, this was not the first guy she encountered who spoke chauvinistic remarks to her. The last man she broke up with also said something similar to her: “It may take years before you find someone else, and then you get to the point where you can’t have children. You might still be attractive when you get older, but I mean I haven’t even reached my peak of attractiveness yet and won’t reach it until I’m 40. But women have a much smaller window. You have a biological clock that is about to run out.” Oh, where’s the irony in that? Except that this guy didn’t even want kids, according to the user.
Gold diggers boys and girls
The history of the gold diggers is one we know all too well. And you would think that people could spot it from a mile away, but apparently they can’t! People these days can get more creative! V p/date thread, several guys have shared their stories of how they instantly become consummate when they tell their matches what they do for a living. Men and women also often receive requests for money transfers.
Several Reddit posters have even shared their own tips and tricks on how to spot or avoid gold diggers on online dating apps as well as the dates they met the person online. Some said that they should downplay their career or salary, others noted that if their date ordered the most expensive dish on the menu, while others felt that one could simply “tell” if their date is a gold digger.
Weirds to watch out for
Not all dates will be successful. That’s why we go for one in the first place! – to see if we are compatible with our dates. But it’s unbelievable how some people can sometimes leave you wondering, “Will ANYONE be compatible with them?” Here’s what the poster shared on Reddit: “If a guy told me that I look like someone who smells good, which isn’t too bad, except that he asked what perfume I wear so he can smell it me while jerking off in photos. in my profile”.
another user, u/EmpathicBadger didn’t share much of the backstory or story arc in their post. They just said that the creepiest thing online dating did to them was that they were threatened with demons that would be summoned to kill them. AND u/Starlight_Sparrow said the scariest thing the online sensor told them was, “You are so small. I bet you could fit in all kinds of boxes and tight spaces. Yeah, we wouldn’t blame the OP if they ran away as soon as they heard that!
Don’t be ashamed “Nope TF outta outta”
Sometimes online dating sucks – and it will probably be years before we can read all the horror stories of online dating that get posted online. But even so, there is much more than not being shared online. But don’t worry, while the stories we read about can be scary, there are also hundreds of non-creepy, non-misogynistic, and non-cat people on online dating apps. A Pew Research Center survey says that 3 out of 10 US adults use or have used dating apps. So if you are single, you can still hope that there is someone out there who is for you!
Finally, if you’re going on a date with someone online, be extremely careful! And don’t be afraid to say “no TF” from a date that doesn’t go well, especially if your security is at risk. But also make sure you have fun when you go on dates – that’s a great thing about having dating apps. You can meet a lot of people – conveniently!